I don't know why i kept falling for the wrong guy. I know its wrong but I kept falling for them. Now I'm trying not to fall for the wrong guy anymore instead just go with the flow. I'm so afraid of that devastated feelings again and again. I just can't afford to feel the pain for gazillion times.
And because of that I tend to ignore any guys who I know have feelings for me. I don't them to feel how I feel cause I know I will forget to reply their text. I will not return their calls. All of sudden I became someone who is afraid of attachments. I will try my best to avoid it when I know I can give it a try. Now I raise my bar up high because I know how ridiculous it is to get that person I wanted. Maybe one in a million. So I will not fall for anyone cause of these specific things I want them to have.
I used to hate being alone now I think I love being all alone just me empty heart and friends and family. Perhaps someone with awesome magical power could open up my heart for me to accept 'em. As for now I'm comfortable being all alone. With no dates. No flings/scandals. No crushes. Just friends and family.
LATER~
And because of that I tend to ignore any guys who I know have feelings for me. I don't them to feel how I feel cause I know I will forget to reply their text. I will not return their calls. All of sudden I became someone who is afraid of attachments. I will try my best to avoid it when I know I can give it a try. Now I raise my bar up high because I know how ridiculous it is to get that person I wanted. Maybe one in a million. So I will not fall for anyone cause of these specific things I want them to have.
I used to hate being alone now I think I love being all alone just me empty heart and friends and family. Perhaps someone with awesome magical power could open up my heart for me to accept 'em. As for now I'm comfortable being all alone. With no dates. No flings/scandals. No crushes. Just friends and family.
LATER~
2 comments:
Hey there,
You can't change what you don't acknowledge. Until you understand and accept that, you won't be able to begin the healing process. Although it's nice to have a romantic relationship, it's not necessary. You can be a whole person without being half of a couple. The old saying is true: It's better to be healthy alone than sick with somebody else.
Until you truly know and like yourself, you won't find a healthy and compatible mate. There's no question that breakups can be painful, and that it's difficult to trust and love again. But there are ways to get past the pain. In time, it is absolutely vital to put the pain behind you and move forward with your life and love. Otherwise, you are giving away your power to the people who hurt you.
Grief is a process to go through, not a destination in which to wallow. In a process, you keep putting one foot in front of the other, and each little step is part of your healing. Be careful about the language you use. When you use catastrophic terms like "nightmare," "terrible," and "horrible," you're bound to spend time dwelling on the negative. Focus on what you can do.
Sometimes you can't get over being hurt until you know you've been heard. Give yourself permission to express your anger and sadness. Learn to trust again. Whenever you get involved in a relationship, you know there's a risk. Don't let a bad experience keep you from living your life to the fullest. You can go through life suspicious, or loving and laughing.
- a friend -
i think i know who u are.and thanks a lot for the long and great advice.
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